It is up to me to adjust my attitudes, to know that I am my own person and even if my mother may still want me to yield or give others what they need because "I have enough", I may still have to remind myself but I now have the confidence to say no when I want to | |
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Cuz this is the only thing that should matter! Excellent book that really goes into detail about how we behave amongst the people love or come into contact with | but we should keep going in some way |
I entered a low rating because of page 86 | I could however see how people who are too nice could end up in that situation and need those specific reminders to get themselves out of that black hole |
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In asserting yourself, whether you want people to stop or start doing something, you need to be positive, specific and direct, rather than negative, indirect, manipulative or moralistic |
I usually settled on there was something wrong with me.
I have never seen it laid out so clearly | Anyone with children knows the more you tell them over and over to pick up their toys, the more they meltdown |
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The basic structure of each chapter is more or less the same: The Mal-Adaptive Behavior of the "Nice Person" and the Adaptive Behavior of a Person who is Actually Nice to transition into.
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